🌟Winter Solstice & Cultivating Presence and Attunement in Intimacy🌟
The winter solstice is approaching! We may find ourselves in the heart of a very busy season, and as the stress builds, you may wonder why? Why is it so stressful? I’ll tell you why— we are fighting the natural rhythm of the world.
This is a time when the nights are longest and the non-human world around us takes a deep breath, inviting us to slow down and cultivate presence in our lives and relationships. The more we resist rest, the more we feel the stress. So, as this year comes to a close, I invite you to explore how we can find rest and relaxation, and deepen our intimacy and attunement with ourselves and our partners as we move forward into the next.
The good news is that THIS SATURDAY, DECEMBER 21,I will be partnering with Areina Naranjo, a licensed massage therapist and founder of Orange Moon Massage & Holistic Healing to bring you a beautiful solstice offering. Couples Massage & Connection: a workshop for cultivating presence and attunement. You can prepare yourself for the longest night of the year! This event is will be covering:
Giving/Recieving
Consent
Embodiment
Presence/Preparing the Environment
Touch
Anatomy
Massage Techniques
🎁Plus, you’ll get a free massage oil specially hand-crafted by Areina!
🎅 Some tips on cultivating intimacy for the winter solstice 🎄
🎁Celebrate the Darkness – Together!
The winter solstice symbolizes the return of the light, but before we embrace that brightness, let's honor the stillness of the dark. Snuggle up with your partner and share stories by candlelight. Reflect on what you love about the dark—what it offers in terms of rest, safety, and connection. Use this time to create a rich tapestry of shared experiences that bonds you closer together.
🎁Mindful Moments
In the hustle and bustle of holiday preparations, presence can sometimes take a backseat. Make it a point to carve out “mindful moments” together. Whether it's a simple walk in nature, sipping hot cocoa, or sharing a cozy blanket while watching your favorite movie, being intentional with these moments strengthens your connection. Tune into each other’s presence; feel the warmth and energy exchanged in those simple, shared experiences.
🎁Attunement Through Ritual
Rituals help to anchor us and can enhance our sense of intimacy. This winter solstice, consider creating a personal ritual with your partner. It could be lighting candles and expressing what you’re grateful for, or writing intentions for the new year ahead. Rituals allow you to attune to each other's needs and desires, fostering deeper understanding and connection.
🎁The Power of Breath
Breath is a powerful tool for cultivating presence. Explore breathwork together—take a few moments to breathe in sync, allowing your inhales and exhales to unify your energies. This practice not only enhances intimacy but also encourages relaxation and connectedness. Let your breaths create a harmonious rhythm within your space. You may even place a hand on eachother’s chest to feel the rise and fall within your bodies.
🎁Keep It Light and Fun!
While cultivating presence is essential, so is incorporating joy and laughter into your connection. Plan a playful activity—perhaps a snowball fight, baking holiday treats, or dancing to your favorite songs. When you share laughter, you deepen your bond and make the experience of intimacy more dynamic.
As we move toward the winter solstice, let us remember that intimacy is not just about the physical connection but also about the emotional and energetic ties we nurture. Embracing presence and attunement creates a safe space for vulnerability and joy.
Wishing you warmth, love, and deeper connections this winter season!
In warmth and intimacy,
Jessica Langley
Sex, Intimacy & Relationship coach and Earth Medicine Mentor
